Results of a study from the National Marriage Project help point the way for husbands and wives who ask, “How can I save my marriage?”
The study, released this month, looked at what it took to have a successful marriage among those were parents. Regardless of whether a couple has children, the study provides insight into what a successful marriage requires.
The traits researchers found that were shared by the happiest couples are a combination of traditional values that make concessions to modern views. The traditional factors include religious faith, commitment, support of friends and family, a sound economic foundation provided by a good job and quality family time. A few of the more modern factors are shared housework, good sex, marital generosity, date nights and having a college degree.
None of these finding are earthshaking. Like so many things in life, we often know what really works and what we should do, but that doesn’t mean we actually do it! If everyone in an intimate relationship heeded the findings in this report, there would be a lower divorce rate, stronger relationships and happier people overall.
Christian husbands and wives hold the first key to a successful marriage in their faith. And this study also seems to point to something else: that it’s important for us not only to work to make our own marriages strong, but also to support others in their marriages.
In light of this research, Kaiser recommends:
- Consider your partner’s feelings, thoughts and desires;
- Compromise as often as you can;
- Comfort your partner when he or she is in pain, even if you are the cause of their distress;
- Compliment daily — it lifts people up, counteracts insecurities and it simply feels good.
Kaiser’s tips are common sense, even by her own admission. But common sense is common sense for a reason, isn’t it?
“How can I save my marriage?” For Christian husbands and wives, it seems, strengthening commitment to faith will help provide a solid foundation.